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ILLEGAL ACTIVITY => DOUBLE MARRIAGE => Topic started by: hiroya on September 21, 2012, 09:26:27 AM



Title: do I have to tell the truth?
Post by: hiroya on September 21, 2012, 09:26:27 AM
ohayo po sa lahat ng malagonians, specially striver San and maam japphi, I need your advice please I hope you can give me an advice..this is my story... I was married with a japanese after I got my 3yrs visa we signed our divorced paper and lived separately, but not reporting the divorced to the city hall yet. Then I met a new boyfriend and decided to pass my divorced but unfortunately not knowing I was already pregnant to my new boyfriend.. But I didnt know my boyfriend is already married to Japanese.he can not give his name to our son, but providing everything for us, he promissed me and make me waited for long that he will do something to give name to our child but nothing happened.. I overstayed for 3yrs.. Then few months ago I talked to my ex husband and please him to let my son use his name, and now my son is already in my ex husband family registry.. So my problem now is when I go to the immigration do I have to tell them the truth that I am living together with the real father of my son? To I have to tell them what was the real thing happened? And where and how we are living? Somebody says don't tell about the real father, his name should not exist anymore but if they come to investigate us what should I do, we don't have anywhere to go, to hide.. I am so much confused.. Please help me.. And thank you so much in advance.. I will appreciate all of your advices..


Title: Re: do I have to tell the truth?
Post by: luz.enverzo on September 21, 2012, 12:09:57 PM
hiroya san kung ako sa kalagayan mo sasabihin ko lahat kung ano nangyari kasi malalaman at malalaman ng immigration once na nag investigate sila, katulad na lng ng nabuntis ka saka mo naipasa ang divorced certificate dapat automatic lalabas na anak ng asawa mo ang bata tapos na overstay ka, mas maganda sama mo yung asawa mo sa immigration kung susuko ka para maexplain ng maayos, dun naman sa tunay na ama ng bata wag na umasa na iiwan nya ang pamilya nya para sa inyong mag ina lalo na ang mga hapon hindi sigurado papayag ang tunay na asawa gayong ang lalaki ang nangaliwa tapos nagka anak pa malaking eskandalo at kahihiyan di lang sa asawa nya pati na rin sa magulangnila, mahirap man tanggapin pero kailangan harapin ang katotohanan, ang pinaka kawawa ay si baby mo kung kelan lumaki na saka pa lng nagka pangalan, huwag kang matakot minsan nagkakamali tayo sa pagdidesisyon ika nga you have to face the consequences alang alang sa anak ipaglaban mo ang karapatan mo bilang ina at bilang babae, madali sabihin pero mahirap pag ikaw na ang nsa sitwasyon tatagan mo lang loob mo at umpisan mo na ang pag aayos ng papeles nyo mag ina, yung kaso mong overstay i think medyo may laban ka kasi japanese ang father ng baby mo (ako overstay din pero walang baby) , maliban na lng kung pati papers mo ay immitation( di tunay na pangalan) , pag may pera ka naman mas maganda ipalakad sa abogado kasi katulad sakin kami lng nag aayos mabagal ang usad pero tiyaga lang cguro , goodluck kaya mo yan!


Title: Re: do I have to tell the truth?
Post by: hiroya on September 21, 2012, 03:21:20 PM
thank you luz kaname ka pa ng tita ko dito din japan, salamat s advice mo,maraming salamat po talaga...i also pray for you, n sana maging maayos n din visa mo.. godbless you..


Title: Re: do I have to tell the truth?
Post by: striver on September 22, 2012, 11:22:10 AM
mahirap ang situation mo at mahirap din magbigay ng advise pag ganito ang situation.

i guess, ang una mo munang dapat gawin is make up your mind. ano ba ang gusto mong gawin? gusto mo pa rin bang makisama sa bf mo now kahit ganyan ang situation mo? or you want na makipagbalikan sa dati mong asawa? what i want to say here is, di pwede yong parang gagamitin mo lang yong asawa mo before para magkaroon ng name ang anak mo, then you will waiting for your bf at magpapatuloy pa rin sa relation ninyo. its unfair i think. at dyan ka mahihirapan kumilos pag ganyan ang gusto mong mangyari.

now, kung nakipag usap ka sa dati mong asawa at tinanggap nito ang anak mo sa iba at ibinigay ang name nya, why not kausapin mo rin na gusto mong magkabalikan kayo? kung di mo pa napapasa yong divorce paper ninyo, by law, mag asawa pa rin kayo. at lalabas na anak nya yong anak mo sa bf mo by law rin. this advise is kung kaya mo pa rin makipag balikan sa kanya, kasi di ko rin alam kung anong reason kung bakit ka nakipag hiwalay before. kung di mo kaya for some reason, wag mo pilitin ang sarili mo.

kausapin mo mister mo about sa pagbabalikan nyo. this will save you from being an overstayer now. although hindi ito nangangahulugan na makakakuha ka ng visa agad dahil sa higpit now. then about sa anak mo, better to say the truth about it. wag mo nang palakihin pa ang mga kaso mo. binabaon mo lang lalo ang sarili mo ng palalim. baka di ka na makaahon.

now, kung ayaw mong makipagbalikan sa asawa mo then gusto mong ipagpatuloy ang ginagawa mo now, then embrace the consequences and its happening right now at yan nga ang problem mo. kung gusto mong makuha ang name ng bf mo para magamit ng anak mo, you have to fight for it. kumuha ka ng attorney na syang tutulong sa iyo sa case na yan. although it will takes a lot of money.  244;